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Cathryn James's avatar

This was so interesting to read, and also challenging for me (in a good way), as someone who has found myself, quite devastatingly, without real community even though we recently moved back to my home city. I agree that individuals should always feel free to pursue ideas/goals/opportunities beyond their immediate context... but I also think that, when this becomes the norm, it starts to shape us in certain ways and may make us less able/willing to see the (legitimate) claims made on us by the more dependent - particularly the elderly. I live in South Africa, where many educated and upwardly mobile people move to bigger cities or emigrate, leaving their parents behind. I can't tell you the number of times I've been out in public with my toddler and had an elderly stranger tell me, unprompted, about their grandchild who is in Australia/ Canada/ Europe and who they never get to see - it's heartbreaking.

I keep wondering if maybe there's a "happy medium", something like what Lane Scott is doing by building culture in a home and community, while still encouraging exploration... but in my experience, that middle ground doesn't last long - especially if economic conditions are difficult - and you inevitably get a growing class of "Anywheres".

Just my rambling thoughts - thank you for a thought provoking essay!

Nathan Smith's avatar

What wonderful writing! Fascinating and perceptive. A joy to read.

if you ever have time, I'd be interested in your take on my "Twelve Days of Christmas" From the perspective of what it has to say about community. :)

https://lancelotfinn.substack.com/p/the-twelve-days-of-christmas

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